Another question, because I can come up with some serious doozies.

Does your personal pain, suffering, or loss separate you from those around you, or does it bring you closer to them? If you can, cite specific examples.

Answered that question? Ok. Now answer this:

Does personal pain, suffering, or loss increase a sense of "being apart" from those around you, or does it increase a sense of "belonging with" people around you? If you can, cite specific examples.

Were your answers the same for both questions? How were they different, or similar?

Questions... questions... questions...